Parenting Tip of the Week: Use “I” Statements

Parenting is hard, especially in the busy world that we live in. Applying these small and simple skills each week will help you in your journey of parenting and build connection with your children and/or teens!

“I” statements are a way to express your feelings without placing blame on the other person. They focus on your emotions and the impact of a situation, rather than accusing or criticizing. When children and teens hear “I” statements, they’re more likely to listen and engage in constructive conversation rather than shutting down or becoming defensive. This simple but powerful shift in language can help foster connection, reduce defensiveness, and model emotional regulation.

When parents use “I” statements, they demonstrate emotional responsibility, teaching children and teens how to express their own feelings in a healthy way. Rather than triggering shame or guilt, these statements create a sense of understanding and cooperation. Over time, this approach builds a more trusting relationship, where kids feel safe to share their own thoughts and emotions without fear of judgment.

For example, imagine your teen comes home past curfew, and instead of an accusation like “You’re so irresponsible for coming home late!”, you say: “I feel worried when you come home late because I care about your safety.”

This opens the door for discussion rather than resistance. Your teen is more likely to engage in problem-solving rather than reacting with frustration or defiance.

Using “I” statements is a simple yet effective tool for strengthening parent-child relationships. They encourage open dialogue, reduce conflict, and model healthy emotional expression. By making this small change in communication, you’re helping your child or teen develop essential skills for their own emotional well-being.

Want to learn more? Tune into Episode 26 of the Playful Connection Podcast for a deeper discussion on using “I” statements in everyday parenting!

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