Parenting Tip of the Week: Regular Check-Ins — Creating Space for Ongoing Connection
- Eddie Shin, LMFT
- Apr 14
- 2 min read
Parenting is hard, especially in the busy world that we live in. Applying these small and simple skills each week will help you in your journey of parenting and build connection with your children and/or teens!
In the hustle and bustle of daily routines—school, work, chores, and extracurriculars—it’s easy for real connection with our children and teens to fall to the side. That’s why building regular check-ins into your weekly rhythm can be a game-changer. These intentional, set-aside moments offer your child a safe space to share their feelings, concerns, and even the wins they might otherwise keep to themselves.
By making space for open communication, we show our children that we’re not only available in times of crisis—but also for the little things. And those “little things” often open the door to deeper understanding and connection.
Children and teens often carry unspoken worries, misunderstandings, or even happy moments they’re unsure how to share. A scheduled check-in gives them a consistent time where they know you're available—judgment-free and fully present. This helps them feel emotionally safe, valued, and truly heard.
Even more, regular check-ins prevent issues from piling up. They allow you to address concerns before they grow into bigger problems, and show that emotional health is just as important as physical or academic success in your home.
1. Create a Weekly One-on-One Ritual
Choose a consistent day and time each week for a short check-in with each child individually. This might be five minutes after dinner, ten minutes during bedtime routines, or a walk around the block after school.
2. Use a Feelings Chart or Conversation Prompts
For younger children or those who struggle to talk about emotions, visual aids like a “feelings chart” or simple prompts can help get the conversation started.
3. Start a Monthly Family Meeting
For tweens and teens, try a once-a-month family meeting. Create an agenda together—goals, challenges, what’s working well at home, and where they need support. Allow them to bring their ideas too.
4. Follow Their Lead—Not Every Check-In Has to Be Deep
Sometimes, a child just wants to talk about their favorite show or a funny moment at school. Let that be enough. Showing up consistently without always “digging” builds trust.
Regular check-ins are like watering a garden. They might feel small in the moment, but over time, they nurture deep roots of trust, safety, and connection. These little conversations build a foundation that says: “I’m here. I care. You matter to me—always.”
Even if your child or teen isn’t quite ready to open up right away, the consistency of your presence will speak volumes.
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